21 September 2008

This is why boys think girls are stupid

Despite having a small number of followers on my Twitter account, I received a surprising amount of feedback over the last couple of days regarding a back-and-forth Twitter conversation between Dana and myself. People were having trouble fully piecing together the conversation because of the way Twitter is laid out, so they contacted me about it.

Another reason it's hard for anyone who cares to understand the conversation is because Dana has since deleted all but one of her tweets that were part of our conversation, you know, the ones that begin with "@JSpaghetti".

This is the only tweet that she did not trash: @JSpaghetti WTF? I've never been rude to you. What's with your drama? I've been nothing but nice to you until all of this right now.

Sooo if someone NOW sees this tweet from Dana, and NOW tries to piece together the conversation, and tries to figure out WTF this JSpaghetti chic did that was so rude to Dana, the ten or so related tweets NOW read (in reverse chronological order, which is how Twitter is laid out):

ME: @Mamalogues One thing I've learned: no matter how cool you think you are to people, their perception of you - that's reality.

ME: @Mamalogues No drama on my end, being honest. And if someone says you were rude to them and you deny it, that doesn't mean you weren't rude.

ME: @Mamalogues And by the way, I didn't suddenly unfollow you. I haven't followed you since the blogger gathering when you were rude to me.

ME: @Mamalogues I'm rude; big deal. I thought "many don't understand economics 101 or can even define the job of the fed" was a lame response.

ME: @Mamalogues A little of both.

ME: @Mamalogues I didn't want to debate, but if you're so strapped on time, why are you still tweeting about oxymorons? THAT'S an oxymoron.

ME: ...@Mamalogues... I think you had a mix-up on one of your last tweets. It should read: It should be mandatory for the GOVERNMENT to understand the economy and THEIR ROLE. The misconceptions and lack of info are ridiculous.

ME: ...The lender wants their money. They convince the person, who really shouldn't buy a house, feel like they can. That's predatory lending.

ME: ...take out the loan, seek one anyway. These people cannot comprehend and understand the convoluted and complicated contract language...

ME: @Mamalogues True, nobody MADE those people take out loans. What happens is, people who aren't exactly in a financial position to...


Um, okay?

Since Dana deleted all of her other tweets from her side of our conversation, the conversation doesn't even make sense. If any person has the attention span to get through those last five or six of my tweets, they'll see me write "I'm rude; big deal" and then decide that - "Yep, Dana was right. This JSpaghetti chic IS rude." Or they might see that most of my tweets are directed @Mamalogues, while she only wrote one @JSpaghetti.

Newsflash: I'm not an idiot. Dana purposely deleted comments to make me look like I couldn't let something go and that I just kept badgering her.

I don't even know what to think of that, but I know the difference between right and wrong - and that's just wrong; deleting most of a conversation except the one statement that says @JSpaghetti WTF? I've never been rude to you. What's with your drama? I've been nothing but nice to you until all of this right now.

That's wrong. wRonG. WRONG.

I know everyone is entitled to their own deleting policy, but I naively assumed most people delete tweets because of misspelled words, or because of that double-publish thing that twitter sometimes does, or perhaps drunk twittering, etc. But, deleting most of a conversation with exception to the one where you deny being rude, say I'm giving you drama, and say you've been nothing but nice?

Maybe you don't understand; Dana, "being nice" encompasses much more than smiles, blasé conversation and handshakes. Rudeness comes from tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, and so much more. Perception is reality. And based on the comments I received about the Twitter conversation, it seemed like everyone thought you were rude and dramatic, not me.

Luckily, I did have so many questions and comments about Dana's and my conversation right from the beginning, I had copied and pasted them ALL. But the questions kept coming and then kinda got weird, so I just went back to twitter to see what was up. And that's when I saw that there was now only one @JSpaghetti reference.

So below is the original conversation, in whole. For the record, I really only got involved because I was trying to support @Jaelithe, and the next thing you know - this happens.

And it's fucking stupid.

F-U-C-K-I-N-G stupid.

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DANA: @jaelithe Nobody made those people take loans though. People lived beyond their means and that isn't the country's fault.

ME: @Mamalogues True, nobody MADE those people take out loans. What happens is, people who aren't exactly in a financial position to...

ME: ...take out the loan, seek one anyway. These people cannot comprehend and understand the convoluted and complicated contract language...

ME: ...The lender wants their money. They convince the person, who really shouldn't buy a house, feel like they can. That's predatory lending.

DANA: It should be mandatory for people to understand the economy and the role of the Fed. The misconceptions and lack of info are ridiculous

ME: ...@Mamalogues... I think you had a mix-up on one of your last tweets. It should read: It should be mandatory for the GOVERNMENT to understand the economy and THEIR ROLE. The misconceptions and lack of info are ridiculous.

DANA: @JSpaghetti that as well but so many don't understand economics 101 or can even define the job of the fed. no time to debate today though.

DANA: it's funny, people want assloads of cash for entitlement programs but when fannie, et al go QUASI national people freak out. oxymoron.

ME: @Mamalogues I didn't want to debate, but if you're so strapped on time, why are you still tweeting about oxymorons? THAT'S an oxymoron.

DANA: @JSpaghetti are you trying to have a discussion or be rude?

ME: @Mamalogues A little of both.

ME: @Mamalogues I'm rude; big deal. I thought "many don't understand economics 101 or can even define the job of the fed" was a lame response.

DANA: and hells bells, if i don't share your every waking opinion, unfollow! people grow the hell up.

ME: @Mamalogues And by the way, I didn't suddenly unfollow you. I haven't followed you since the blogger gathering when you were rude to me.

DANA: @JSpaghetti WTF? I've never been rude to you. What's with your drama? I've been nothing but nice to you until all of this right now.

ME: @Mamalogues No drama on my end, being honest. And if someone says you were rude to them and you deny it, that doesn't mean you weren't rude.

DANA: Done with people's drama. This is ridiculous. Moving on.

DANA: One thing I've learned is that no matter how cool you are to people, some will just dislike you anyway. I give up.

ME: @Mamalogues One thing I've learned: no matter how cool you think you are to people, their perception of you - that's reality.

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And that is why boys think girls are stupid.

I would never have posted about this trivial bullshit. But now I have to, so I can give my side of the story...because Dana decided to delete her part of the conversation.

So that was the conversation, and now you can make up your own mind. Whether the comments are good, bad, or ugly, I am not publishing any of them. The whole thing is stupid.

Oh, and by the way, I can't even believe you made it to the end of the post.


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Listening to: Primus - Wynona's Big Brown Beaver
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3 comments:

  1. While checking my blog for emotional, loving and supportive words related to my last post, I find a long comment from Dana regarding the "unnecessary drama" and the fact that she deleted her tweets, "because it was ridiculous and I was going to subject the people getting my updates to it."

    Then, pray tell, why did you leave just the one comment on twitter? If that were an honest statement, you would have deleted them all. Instead, you left the comment where you deny being rude, say I'm giving you drama and also say that you've been nothing but nice; I'm the rude one.

    And if this drama is so unnecessary, why did you leave a comment on this post? I said drop it; this is trivial. You couldn't leave it be; that's being dramatic and ridiculous.

    I'm sure you've had that old saying, "Excuses are like assholes, everyone's got one."

    I did not publish Dana's comment because it simply goes in circles, making excuses to defend her actions. I'm guessing it's because the truth is hard to accept. I might be going through a very difficult time in my life, but that doesn't mean I can't recognize the difference between right and wrong.

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  2. Girl, you aren't the only one who has had Dana issues. Every where she goes she creates drama.

    In fact, she'll probably see this, so I'm going to leave this comment as anonymous so she doesn't drop more drama on me. I don't need it. But you know who I am, and I support you, and anyone else who goes against her.

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  3. @Anonymous

    Actually, I don't who are.

    Email me:

    JnetWrites at gmail dot com

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